One of the things my wife and I don't see eye to eye is the subject of sex. To me, it's part and parcel of the human condition, and as such fair game to write about. To my wife, it's an intensely private topic, and one better off left within the realm of a marriage.
I can't say that I disagree with her, but I think I'm a bit more liberal in my interpretation of the subject (no shock there, eh?). Even so, what I have NOT done, and what I do need to do a better job of, is recognizing and respecting her feelings. It would be too easy (and arrogant) for me to tell her that you can feel as you wish, but I'm going to do it anyway. No, I need to be more respectful of her feelings, and it's not as if there aren't many other topics I can dissect in vivid detail.
During past discussions, I'd promised her that I would steer away from sexually-related topics. The problem, though, is that I had no clear rule to determine what would be beyond the pale. Finally, though, I have a rule that makes perfect sense- so much so that I wish I could take credit for it. It's pretty simple, really: "Would I want my 15-year-old stepson to read this?" That puts things in a much different light for me, and I suppose that's a good thing.
Being a 15-year-old boy means thinking about sex 24/7 as it is, and I certainly don't need to be adding fuel to that fire. So, from here on, I'm planning to largely avoid sex as a topic. Oh, I still will think about it- A LOT- but most of that can stay behind closed doors. And that, my friends, can be all kinds of fun....
