MY NEW HERO
Ellen DeGeneres
[C]omic and talk show host Ellen DeGeneres devoted a segment of her daily show to responding to a conservative Christian pastor who accused DeGeneres of turning kids gay as part of Hollywood’s overarching “gay agenda.”…. Gay Star News reported that DeGeneres said on the air to pastor Larry Tomczak, “The only way I’m trying to influence people is to be more kind and compassionate with one another.”…. Tomczak wrote a column for the Christian Post in which he lamented the “avalanche of gay programming” that is “assaulting” Christian homes. DeGeneres, Tomczak wrote, “celebrates her lesbianism and ‘marriage’ in between appearances of guests like Taylor Swift to attract young girls.”
Sometimes I find myself wondering why so many are so concerned with what others do behind closed doors. Why do so many think it their business how and whom another person loves? What gives someone the right to think that their definition of the “right” sort of love is the one, true, and ONLY definition? And what does it say about someone when they’re so fixated on “the gay?”
As DeGeneres said during her monologue, she’s not “married,” but she is married- no qualifiers, nothing that would mark her commitment to Portia de Rossi as “less than” or “illegitimate.” When two people love one another, should it even matter what their genders are? How is a loving, committed, long-term relationship of whatever flavor not a net benefit to society? Love doesn’t come in a one-size-fits-all box; it’s a box with no walls, because love knows no boundaries. The definition of love is something that should be set by the people involved in a relationship. No one on the outside can possibly know or define the love and intimacy shared by others…and it’s frankly none of their damned business.
A couple days ago we got a “save the date” card from some friends planning on getting married in late September. The fact that they’re gay is but a small part of who they are and why we wish them nothing but happiness. They’re two people who love one another and wish to declare a lifetime commitment to one another in front of family, friends, and loved ones. How could we NOT celebrate that? How could that be anything BUT a reason for joy and celebration?
This isn’t about an “avalanche of gay programming” that’s “assaulting” Christian homes. Christians have a choice if they’re repulsed by the idea of same-sex marriage- don’t marry someone of the same gender. That’s as far as the validity of their feelings on the matter goes. It’s not about the “homosexual agenda,” or “recruiting children,” or even “celebrating lesbianism”…whatever that might mean.
DeGeneres is right; Larry Tomczak certainly seems to watch a lot of “gay television.” To me, that seems indicative of a far bigger question- what’s Tomczak so afraid of? And if he’s so disgusted by Teh Gayz, why does he watch so much “gay television”…and know so much about it?
And why does he care what others do behind closed doors?? Me thinks Pastor Tomczak might want to re-examine his motives; he might just find that his fascination with Teh Gayz is an indicator of something in himself he’s unwilling to recognize and admit.
Methinks perhaps Pastor Tomczak protesteth too much…and if Tomczak’s a man of God, I’m Diane Sawyer.
