What is Christian Domestic Discipline?…. Christian Domestic Discipline is not domestic violence. Neither is it abuse. It is an arrangement between two adults who share the belief that the husband is the head of the household and with that position comes the right to enforce his authority. Christian Domestic Discipline is not BDSM. It is not a game. While we do not deny its sometimes erotic nature, it is ultimately not for erotic purposes. It is often much different than the domestic discipline you will find outside of the Christian faith. A Christian Domestic Discipline marriage is set up according to the guidelines set forth in the Holy Bible, meaning the husband has authority over his wife within the bounds of God’s Word and enforces that authority, if need be, through discipline including but not limited to spanking. He uses his authority to keep peace and order in his home, protect his marriage, and help his wife mature in her Christian walk. In a true Christian Domestic Discipline marriage, discipline is tempered with the knowledge that the husband must answer to God for his actions and decisions in his position of authority.
You may well believe women to be the property of men. You may believe men have the God-given right and responsibility to be the unquestioned head of the family, the final authority over all things. If you do, there’s a website dedicated to justifying your regarding women to be “less than” and rightfully submissive to the will of men. It’ll help you rationalize your belief that treating women as property is actually a sign that you respect them as equals, merely with different roles and responsibilities. It may even help you believe that you’re doing the right and godly thing. If that’s your religion…well, congratulations; you’ve managed to completely mangle the Gospel into something that justifies sexism and misogyny. Well played, good sir.
Truth is, if you need to use your religious beliefs to justify treating the woman in your life as “less than,” and as someone you have authority over, you leave much to be desired as a human being. Those who use “the guidelines set forth in the Holy Bible” as justification for sexism know next to nothing about the teachings of the Jesus Christ they purport to revere.
A blog post written in 2013- “How to Make Your Wife Submit to Your Authority -6 Tips”- has gone viral for reasons I have little desire to discern. The tips themselves aren’t necessarily bad, and in fact when taken at face value are very sensible. A reading of the post reveals the intent to be rather cynical and sexist, the idea being that women are as a matter of course to submit to and obey their husbands.
Alright men here’s another post for you! Let’s not beat around the bush, the Bible commands our wives to submit to us!
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Eph 5:22
Simple commands however are not always easy to follow and sometimes our wives need our help in learning to submit. Thankfully, I have a few good tips for you that will help your wife fulfill her Biblical role.
“Simple commands however are not always easy to follow?” When you proceed from the supposition that your wife is intellectually deficient, how can you claim to want an equal partner? How can a marriage truly be a partnership when one member of it elevates themselves above their spouse and expects that she bend to his will?
I know what Scripture says, being taught this as I was during my long-ago Sunday School days, but being in possession of a penis should in no way be held to make one a superior being. The idea that men have dominion over women seems as arrogant as it is offensive. Women aren’t property; they don’t belong to their Penis-American. What I find truly astonishing is how many women acquiesce to an arrangement in which they willfully submit to their husband.
Do these things guarantee that your wife will submit to you? No, but if you do them consistently they will make it more likely. Even if she still doesn’t submit to you I think you’ll find that your marriage will be better off!
True, the tips offered are things that can help create compromise and common ground within a marriage. They’re the sort of things that can help to create the sort of partnership necessary for a successful marriage. To do them with the idea and expectation that your wife will submit to you seems the height of arrogance.
If you can’t (or won’t) treat your wife as an equal partner, do you even deserve to have her in your life? She’s your spouse, not your employee or your property.
