It isn’t the individual instances that are crushing: One or two maniacs could be aberrations. Daily harassment works its way into your body as a dull nausea. When it’s really bad, the force is cumulative — saturating, inevitable, and exhausting, making the street feel like an essentially hostile place. The guy who catcalls you, the guy who follows you, the guy who gropes you, the guy on the train, all the guys on all the trains consolidate into a single, suffocating weight, a constant invisible presence behind you as you walk home at night.
My fellow men,
WTF??? What is wrong with you? Do y’all really believe yourselves so desirable that OF COURSE women would just LOVE to see your purple-headed yogurt slinger in all its naked glory at the time and venue of your choosing? Are you so thoroughly convinced that all women would be clamoring to purchase what you’re selling…if only they could get a sneak preview of the merchandise?
Come on, y’all; let’s get real, shall we? The truth is that NO ONE- especially the distaff half of humanity- wants to see you airing out your johnson. There’s nothing remotely sexy or alluring about someone displaying their shortcomings in public (apologies to the late David Niven). To paraphrase something I read online once upon a time, a penis is like religion- it’s good to have one, and it’s good to be proud of it….but NO ONE wants to see either being waved around in public. Unless you’re having sex with someone who appreciates what you’re packing, a penis is…well, not much to look at.
Here’s my other question: Have y’all forgotten everything you ever learned about treating others with decency and respect? How could you possibly believe that you have the right to assault and/or invade the privacy of women in public? Would you treat your mother that way? I suspect the answer to that question is “Hell, no!” Why would you think it acceptable to treat other women so shabbily and with so little respect?
Women are not objects whose primary function is to attend to your sexual gratification. They’re not responsible for you getting off. That’s the sort of thing a women gives a man because she chooses to share it with him, most likely not in a public setting. It’s not something that any man should expect as their due, because women weren’t put on this planet in order to satisfy your sexual urges (porn come in handy- pun intended- for that, BTW). Having a penis places no burden upon a woman to rub your magic lantern and grant you three wishes. If a woman chooses to do so, that’s great- enjoy the ride, Sparky. Just remember that it’s not your decision to make; you don’t get to determine what a woman will do to or for you without her consent in the process. And- trust me on this one, ‘kay?- it’s not going to happen on a bus, a subway, or a park bench.
If you’re one of those guys so proud of your penis that you just can’t pass up an opportunity to show it to the ladies- because you know they’ll just LOVE it once they see it- please do all of us a favor and seek professional help. You’re making the rest of us look bad, and no woman deserves to be subjected to such harassment and ridiculously inconsiderate disregard.
If you wouldn’t do it to your mother….
